An insecure dominant person will become more “dominant” (dictating) when things go wrong. They go to the only “strength” they know. A strength carried to an extreme is a weakness.
A secure dominant person will use their dominance to serve others instead of manipulating them to serve themselves. They know that they have been given dominance to serve not to be served.
Everyone on our Team exemplifies Servant Leadership and it is a privilege to work with them. But Dominant-Servant Leadership and the multi-faceted benefits it brings is best exemplified by our Supervisor.
I have precious little dominance. I scored almost zero in dominance on a personality test. I hate directing people. I don’t see the big picture. I am better one-on-one, listening, empathizing, and encouraging.
One of the things I hate to see is someone with high dominance using their God-given strength to serve themselves. They can be pushy, rude, scheming, intimidating and more; with a trail of hurt people in their wake (and those hurt by them include themselves).
One of the most beautiful things I have ever seen is a person with a dominate personality with a servant’s heart. They don’t try to dominate you, they try to serve you. They use their personality to easily do the things I can’t do. They see the big picture. They anticipate problems and work on solutions while options are available. They warn you of the problems that are coming. They include others in decision-making. They know the strengths of the people they work with and strategically suggest the best way to use those strengths. Though they are essential they realize they are an equal member of the team, and deserve no more credit than those with other personalities and contributions who are just as essential.
Those who are greatest in God’s kingdom of love are servant’s of all. And we can all be the greatest, because we can all serve one another. God has given us different but equally valuable personality strengths. And when persons with dominant personalities use their strength to serve others, all the personality strengths are orchestrated for the benefit of everyone; to the glory of the God who designed us to complement, serve and love each other.